Comments on: Parental Pressure: My response http://quarterlifefinances.wordpress.com/2008/09/21/parental-pressure-my-response/ I'm just a girl in the world, avoiding a Quarterlife Crisis by taking charge of my life and my finances! Sun, 20 Dec 2009 06:06:38 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: quarterlifegirl http://quarterlifefinances.wordpress.com/2008/09/21/parental-pressure-my-response/#comment-1075 quarterlifegirl Wed, 24 Sep 2008 15:01:16 +0000 http://quarterlifefinances.wordpress.com/?p=634#comment-1075 So Cal Savvy: Your comments are always so eloquent and spot-on! It might seem obvious to readers sometimes how I'm feeling, but oddly enough I won't realize it until someone spells it out for me. Two comments of yours did that: "yet we also get to see that some adults we may have worshiped as children are not always the most responsible adults in the world. " and "It sounds like your friend’s situation was such a big deal to you because in some way it reflects aspects of your own life." I couldn't have said it any better. So Cal Savvy: Your comments are always so eloquent and spot-on! It might seem obvious to readers sometimes how I’m feeling, but oddly enough I won’t realize it until someone spells it out for me. Two comments of yours did that:

“yet we also get to see that some adults we may have worshiped as children are not always the most responsible adults in the world. ”

and

“It sounds like your friend’s situation was such a big deal to you because in some way it reflects aspects of your own life.”

I couldn’t have said it any better.

]]> By: So Cal Savvy http://quarterlifefinances.wordpress.com/2008/09/21/parental-pressure-my-response/#comment-1050 So Cal Savvy Mon, 22 Sep 2008 18:40:32 +0000 http://quarterlifefinances.wordpress.com/?p=634#comment-1050 It’s a funny thing being in your twenties. Yes, you are legally an adult. However, after entering this “club” the best way to be an adult isn’t always immediately clear if you’re still asked to sit at the kids table. We get to see ourselves and our friends in these new roles, and yet we also get to see that some adults we may have worshiped as children are not always the most responsible adults in the world. It can be incredibly frustrating and perplexing! I think that continually improving ourselves and taking on our adult responsibilities is one of the best ways of dealing with this quirky age. By focusing on myself and the things I can control is my technique for dealing with all the hard, exasperating parts of adulthood. For all my friend’s issues- I have always felt that being a good listener is the first step in helping them deal with their problems. It sounds like your friend’s situation was such a big deal to you because in some way it reflects aspects of your own life. For your friend’s sake I hope that she is following your advice: saving up while still helping out the family. It seems like a plan you’ve been following and hopefully your example will rub off on her! It’s a funny thing being in your twenties.

Yes, you are legally an adult. However, after entering this “club” the best way to be an adult isn’t always immediately clear if you’re still asked to sit at the kids table.

We get to see ourselves and our friends in these new roles, and yet we also get to see that some adults we may have worshiped as children are not always the most responsible adults in the world.

It can be incredibly frustrating and perplexing!

I think that continually improving ourselves and taking on our adult responsibilities is one of the best ways of dealing with this quirky age. By focusing on myself and the things I can control is my technique for dealing with all the hard, exasperating parts of adulthood. For all my friend’s issues- I have always felt that being a good listener is the first step in helping them deal with their problems.

It sounds like your friend’s situation was such a big deal to you because in some way it reflects aspects of your own life.

For your friend’s sake I hope that she is following your advice: saving up while still helping out the family. It seems like a plan you’ve been following and hopefully your example will rub off on her!

]]> By: FruGal http://quarterlifefinances.wordpress.com/2008/09/21/parental-pressure-my-response/#comment-1049 FruGal Mon, 22 Sep 2008 15:05:11 +0000 http://quarterlifefinances.wordpress.com/?p=634#comment-1049 Barry Lauterwasser’s comment misses the point. The point is that if your friend wants to move out (which she does) then her parents should be supportive of that, and not rely on her to support their lifestyle. Moving out of home doesn't automatically make you 'grown-up', and you are actually staying at home at the moment for a very mature and thoughtful reason. I would do the same if I thought my family needed help. Barry Lauterwasser’s comment misses the point. The point is that if your friend wants to move out (which she does) then her parents should be supportive of that, and not rely on her to support their lifestyle. Moving out of home doesn’t automatically make you ‘grown-up’, and you are actually staying at home at the moment for a very mature and thoughtful reason. I would do the same if I thought my family needed help.

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